5 reasons you feel lonely

 5 reasons you feel lonely

Loneliness is an increasingly serious problem. One might be tempted to say that it is a modern disease of civilization. Loneliness causes us to suffer from numerous mental illnesses, and it greatly reduces our self-esteem and willingness to take action. But why do we really feel lonely? Here are five likely reasons why you feel loneliness and find it hard to change.

1. you spend time with the wrong people

We can feel a feeling of emptiness even when we surround ourselves with a fair number of people. Especially if in our eyes these people don't match us. Alienation often accompanies us when we can't find our way around the topic the group is discussing and are excluded from ongoing conversations. Inappropriate people can also be toxic, making us feel that our relationship with them is one-sided and we get nothing from them. This makes us feel even more lonely. If the group doesn't want us to be a part of it, we will never become one.

2. You feel that no one understands you

This is a very common phenomenon, especially among teenagers who are overly intelligent or sensitive. Such people have a very hard time finding their way in a society that does not understand and often does not even accept their view of the world. During adolescence, we notice that we are different from the rest of the group, and perhaps these differences lead over time to the fact that we are unable to find a common language with friends and feel misunderstood. This deepens our sense of loneliness. Very often in such situations we can become depressed, which will only make it more difficult for us to interact with others.

3. You are afraid of closeness

People who are unable or afraid to establish a more intimate relationship often feel more lonely. Humans need touch, after all, they are herd animals, and a sense of community and physical contact tightens bonds. We can see people breaking the boundary all the time, and it can really hurt us when we don't have anyone close enough to build physical closeness with. Of course, the same goes for spiritual or psychological closeness, there's a lot of bitterness with them, because their absence strongly affects our mood and increases the chance of depression.

4. You are experiencing a lot of change

If there's a lot going on in your life at the moment, you feel like the world is rushing by too fast, you're likely to feel much more alone than if you had a stable financial and living situation. Constant change fuels stress, and stress reinforces feelings of powerlessness and loneliness. This is especially true when you are fresh out of a long relationship, such as a relationship, and trying to start over, or when you move into a new place where you don't know anyone, or change your place of work or study.

5. You don't know how to start a relationship

This is a very big problem, especially among people who are young and spend a lot of time on social media. Because messaging has replaced conversations, we are more uncomfortable when it comes to face-to-face confrontation. It's also harder for us to read other people's emotions and intentions. That's why sometimes stress and sometimes just a lack of knowledge of how to start a relationship and how to talk to another person deepen our feelings of loneliness. Fortunately, this can be easily trained, simply by trying to make new contacts, preferably with people similar to us in character or interests.